About Me
- UrbanJournalist
- This blog is purely a forum for me to speak about the ironies in life, the things that piss me off, and to quote Peter Griffin of "Family Guy"..."things that grind my gears". Please feel free to visit my website thevirtualsoapbox.com to chime in and read more controversial editorials. I have just released my first book "Twisted Thoughts From a Spotless Mind", it is a collection of several of my poems and editorials. It's for sale right now for $9.99, and I have free shipping. If you would like to order a copy of my book click on the "Buy Now" link below. Thx, UrbanJournalist
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Monday, June 21, 2010
Comet vs Meteor
Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. Many people believe that their creator is the embodiment of love, and that we were created because of it. We all were created in a moment of love. Whether it was shared or selfish, short-lived or slow-burning; love is love none the less and at least one of our parents was feeling it at the moment we were conceived. When you are in love it seems so rare that when it burns out we feel like we will never find it again.
Love can be only be defined by how long it lasts. Is it a comet or a meteor?
Comets are made of dust and gas and need to orbit a star, but ironically as it gets closer to the star it sustains damage. This destructive cycle can continue for millions of years until the star totally destroys it.
Meteors are not dependent on any orbit. Meteors are random. As they burn through the earths atmosphere, life giving elements are exposed and deposited on earth. Scientists argue that building blocks of life on this planet were brought by meteors.
Comets are born on the edges of the universe.
Meteors can be found in comet trails and debris fields.
Is your love a comet or a meteor? Is it destructive or does it give life?
Are you on a vigil awaiting love's grand arrival or are you finding new life in the pieces that lie in love's wake?
I am anxiously awaiting the meteor shower that will follow the comet that just blazed thru my orbit.
Life is about the experience, evolution is the key to longevity.
UrbanJournalist
Love can be only be defined by how long it lasts. Is it a comet or a meteor?
Comets are made of dust and gas and need to orbit a star, but ironically as it gets closer to the star it sustains damage. This destructive cycle can continue for millions of years until the star totally destroys it.
Meteors are not dependent on any orbit. Meteors are random. As they burn through the earths atmosphere, life giving elements are exposed and deposited on earth. Scientists argue that building blocks of life on this planet were brought by meteors.
Comets are born on the edges of the universe.
Meteors can be found in comet trails and debris fields.
Is your love a comet or a meteor? Is it destructive or does it give life?
Are you on a vigil awaiting love's grand arrival or are you finding new life in the pieces that lie in love's wake?
I am anxiously awaiting the meteor shower that will follow the comet that just blazed thru my orbit.
Life is about the experience, evolution is the key to longevity.
UrbanJournalist
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Carpe Diem
I woke up this morning worry free for the first time of my adult life it seems. It's not that I dont have problems; it's just that I think ive finally learned that the only thing I can control is how prepared I am to deal with a problem. Once its here I can only use what I have to face it. Shoulda coulda wouldas dont help now so why bog myself down with those. If I havent prepared as well as I could then I get a chance to face it with my limited arsenal and give it all I got; if I find success that's awesome, if I run out of options today, I can put together a plan to increase my preparedness in the future based on the lessons I learned in the battle today. Either way success will be had...eventuallly. Carpe diem...seize the day!
UrbanJournalist
UrbanJournalist
Monday, February 22, 2010
Mommy and Daddy does not Equal Husband and Wife
As an openly gay masculine female people are often surprised that I have two sons; and yes they call me Momma. That's what I am, and while I realize that I'm not the conventional version I take pride in my job and will give my life for my kids.
People, family and friends included, also are surprised by the fact that I have a close friendship with their father. When people are faced with situations they don't understand they begin to try and influence them.
I have a question for the world. Is it better for parents to have healthy joint interactions with their children without having a romantic relationship or should they try to force a romance and "stay together for the children" unintentionally creating a volatile environment that undoubtedly has a negative affect on the children?
I say to those that feel both parents need to live together and be romantically involved to be parents to open their eyes. My commitment is to my children. I do not have to be romantically involved with their father to parent my children together with him. My sons need both their mom and dad. It is both of our responsibility as parents to support them, protect them, and teach them how to be responsible adults capable of raising a family of their own. People often question the close interaction that I have with their father, and make suggestions that we should be together romantically.
WTF???
Why should I live a lie "for the sake of my kids"? How is that a healthy example for my children? When my children see their parents positively interacting together I know that they feel the love that we share for them. We do things together with our sons. I am grateful for the fact that we have the ability to support and raise our children together.
If another person suggests that we are getting together because they see us supporting our sons, I swear I just might snap. Don't force me to fit into your little box, that's not where my family belongs. Yes I said my family!
My kids deserve to have both of their parents involved in their lives. We both are committed to them. What we don't need is people trying to force their doctrines on us constantly claiming that parents need to live together in order to raise healthy, intelligent, well-adjusted kids. We will forever be their parents and our lives became intertwined from they day they arrived on this earth and our lives will remain that way until they day we leave this earth.
I know it is more healthy for my sons to have both of their parents focused on supporting them than for their parents focused on trying to forge a romantic relationship that is not there.
People need to realize that mother and father does not equal husband and wife.
Why are mothers/fathers who raise and support their children without help labeled single parents?
Why aren't they just parents?
Why is there such a negative connotation placed on raising a child without the help of the other parent? These responsible adults who have made the commitment to raise and support their children should be commended not condemned.
Those groups of parents like me and my sons' dad who are very active in their children's lives; committed solely to making sure they are showered with the love, protection, and guidance they need are a special breed. We have realized that it is not about us its about our children.
I am totally committed to the health, safety, and education of my sons; that's my job as a parent. It is not my job as a parent to be a mate. My sons are happy healthy and very intelligent, and I know it is because of the fact that their father and I realize that our commitment is to our children, not to being mates for each other.
To all those that find themselves raising and supporting their children in what society deems as an unconventional home, I commend you. To those parents who have realized that their job as parents is to support and raise their children and that alone, I commend you.
Mommy and Daddy does not equal Husband and Wife; the world needs more parents to commit to their role as mom or dad. Children need parents not marriages.
UrbanJournalist
People, family and friends included, also are surprised by the fact that I have a close friendship with their father. When people are faced with situations they don't understand they begin to try and influence them.
I have a question for the world. Is it better for parents to have healthy joint interactions with their children without having a romantic relationship or should they try to force a romance and "stay together for the children" unintentionally creating a volatile environment that undoubtedly has a negative affect on the children?
I say to those that feel both parents need to live together and be romantically involved to be parents to open their eyes. My commitment is to my children. I do not have to be romantically involved with their father to parent my children together with him. My sons need both their mom and dad. It is both of our responsibility as parents to support them, protect them, and teach them how to be responsible adults capable of raising a family of their own. People often question the close interaction that I have with their father, and make suggestions that we should be together romantically.
WTF???
Why should I live a lie "for the sake of my kids"? How is that a healthy example for my children? When my children see their parents positively interacting together I know that they feel the love that we share for them. We do things together with our sons. I am grateful for the fact that we have the ability to support and raise our children together.
If another person suggests that we are getting together because they see us supporting our sons, I swear I just might snap. Don't force me to fit into your little box, that's not where my family belongs. Yes I said my family!
My kids deserve to have both of their parents involved in their lives. We both are committed to them. What we don't need is people trying to force their doctrines on us constantly claiming that parents need to live together in order to raise healthy, intelligent, well-adjusted kids. We will forever be their parents and our lives became intertwined from they day they arrived on this earth and our lives will remain that way until they day we leave this earth.
I know it is more healthy for my sons to have both of their parents focused on supporting them than for their parents focused on trying to forge a romantic relationship that is not there.
People need to realize that mother and father does not equal husband and wife.
Why are mothers/fathers who raise and support their children without help labeled single parents?
Why aren't they just parents?
Why is there such a negative connotation placed on raising a child without the help of the other parent? These responsible adults who have made the commitment to raise and support their children should be commended not condemned.
Those groups of parents like me and my sons' dad who are very active in their children's lives; committed solely to making sure they are showered with the love, protection, and guidance they need are a special breed. We have realized that it is not about us its about our children.
I am totally committed to the health, safety, and education of my sons; that's my job as a parent. It is not my job as a parent to be a mate. My sons are happy healthy and very intelligent, and I know it is because of the fact that their father and I realize that our commitment is to our children, not to being mates for each other.
To all those that find themselves raising and supporting their children in what society deems as an unconventional home, I commend you. To those parents who have realized that their job as parents is to support and raise their children and that alone, I commend you.
Mommy and Daddy does not equal Husband and Wife; the world needs more parents to commit to their role as mom or dad. Children need parents not marriages.
UrbanJournalist
Monday, January 25, 2010
Happy Birthday to Me
Today, 34 years ago I was born. Since that wonderful January day life has been filled with surprises, joys, pain, lessons learned, and love. This is the path life has chosen for me, and im glad. I wouldnt change much about my life and the thing that plagues me the most is the fact that i haven't spent as much time with my family. That's my challenge this year, to be more present in my children's lives, in my nieces and nephews lives, and even in my siblings lives.
People love to say i came in this world alone and ill leave it alone. that's is a crock of ish! there is at least one person who was there when you came, and when you leave you will undoubtedly leave someone behind.
Im taking this year of my life to strengthen the connections with the ones that i will leave behind.
UrbanJournalist
People love to say i came in this world alone and ill leave it alone. that's is a crock of ish! there is at least one person who was there when you came, and when you leave you will undoubtedly leave someone behind.
Im taking this year of my life to strengthen the connections with the ones that i will leave behind.
UrbanJournalist
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Change is Here
Every living being must grow to sustain life. Sometimes our growth is calculated and deliberate, sometimes we allow fate alone to decide our course. Things happen in life that we don't understand and sometimes it takes an earthquake to shake our foundation violently, so that we will be forced to build a more stable lasting one. In the rubble, sometimes you will find that there are casualties, as well as survivors. Gather what you have that remained find fertile, safe, stable ground and begin to lay a new foundation. Change is necessary, its not always pretty, but it always brings life. The earthquake in my life has trapped all of the things that have choked the life out of me, and left me with a grand opportunity to relocate my foundation. Change is here; i got my building permit, do u have yours?
UrbanJournalist
UrbanJournalist
Friday, January 8, 2010
The Fat Lady's Song
They say its not over until the fat lady sings; well have you ever allowed yourself to wonder why she has to sing when somethings over?
This is my theory, in every movie there is a soundtrack, so it is with life i think. Music guiding every moment of our lives.
Sometimes the fat lady is singing a song of triumph or one of defeat; maybe she's singing about new life or a tragic end.
Today the fat lady is singing a song of loneliness, and she's been singing this tune in my ears for a while.
They say its not over until the fat lady sings; I say when is the fat lady gonna stop singing to me.
UrbanJournalist
This is my theory, in every movie there is a soundtrack, so it is with life i think. Music guiding every moment of our lives.
Sometimes the fat lady is singing a song of triumph or one of defeat; maybe she's singing about new life or a tragic end.
Today the fat lady is singing a song of loneliness, and she's been singing this tune in my ears for a while.
They say its not over until the fat lady sings; I say when is the fat lady gonna stop singing to me.
UrbanJournalist
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